Need To Improve Skill Of Approaching

It seems to me that I lack skill at approaching.

For some time now, I've wondered at the source of my reluctance to approach. Unlike many others, I don't ordinarily suffer crippling bouts of Approach Anxiety. I don't get all sweaty, no butterflies in the stomach - none of that. In fact, when I do approach, I'm usually quite calm and collected.

But still, I frequently fail to approach, even in situations where it's reasonably obvious that I should.

So, this last weekend, I was out with a couple of guys - not really winging per se, but we were all at the bar together. This time, I forced myself to open sets, by any means possible. We went to a few different places and I opened 7-8 sets total for the night. None of these sets really hooked and towards the end of the night, I realized exactly what the problem was: I'm just not very good at approaching. Yes, I CAN approach, but 9 times out of 10, when I do so, I make absolutely no impact. I'm not announcing my presence to the set. I'm just some guy.

And this is why, I think, that I don't approach as much as I should. I basically already know, even before I do it, what the likely outcome will be. So why do it?

My task now is very simple: get good at approaching. I need to stop worrying about all the other aspects of game and concentrate on this one simple skill.

9.16.10 FR - Happy Hour - 1 Set

Last night was a bit of a bust. Apparently, there was a competing event called the Warmack Happy Hour that always draws hundreds of people, so basically hardly anyone showed up at our event.

I did make small talk for a bit with this tattooed girl at the counter. There was some attraction but then it kind of petered off into nothing. Big mistake was getting into interview questions. I need to figure out how to DRIVE the conversation more in the direction of sexy/fun.

Some ideas:

• Could have commented on her Tats
• Could have commented on her large tits (they were nice!)
• Try to throw in the word "Sexy" next time
• Talked about the usual Red Door Friday and Saturday crowd - talked about what a meat market it is - lots of college kids and early 20's looking to hook up
• A compliment may have worked i.e. "sexy"
• Need some stories

So, I have 29 sets left to open this weekend. I can open them any way that works. Need to remember that I am there to get the skill, not the girl.

Week 1 Goals

I will be going out three nights this week - Thursday (tonight), Friday, and Saturday.

Tonight will be a cocktail/networking event with this group I am part of, but haven't done anything with in roughly a year. The goal will be to mingle casually with as many people as I can, keep control of my body language, and throw out qualification pings to as many women as possible. The social touching level of kino escalation is appropriate.

For all three nights, the goal will be to engage at least 10 sets.

Openers all three nights should be simple:
Hi
You know, I was totally going to wear that dress
Are you guys big soccer/football/baseball fans?

Qualification Pings:
I like feminine women
I like women with a sense of style
not looking for a buddy to drink beer with
Intelligence
Positive Outlook/Upbeat/sense of humor

Threads:
Sports
CrossFit
Books
Movies - mention Spartacus
travel - want to go to Costa Rica, Dominican

Things to remember:
Lean Back
Talk Loud
Don't show too much interest
Lock in where possible
Statements not questions

Extra Credit:
Use the claw or get hugs